Doula Circle was thoughtful and full last night. Thank you to everyone who came, and if you missed it, make sure you're getting our reminders by signing up here AND adding firstname.lastname@example.org to your contact list so we don't get tossed in your spam folder. 🥴
Here's what we got into:
🔥 boundaries support our self-care and allow us to prioritize our needs so we can show up how we choose to in life and as caregivers
♥️setting & holding boundaries IS self-care and is a way to love on ourselves
☮️ we can learn about our boundaries by paying attention to our bodies, noticing tension and unease when they're crossed and a grounded solidness when we hold them lovingly.
🗓️ boundaries can be something as simple as marking out time for rest, vacations etc on your calendar and then letting clients know you are unavailable at that time.
🛌 the more you practice setting and holding boundaries, the easier it becomes
😔 it is common for all manner of emotions to come up when we begin practicing setting boundaries, make space for whatever you feel, including but not limited to grief, anger and overwhelm.
💰 getting clear on your boundaries around topics that you are tender about or that folks typically find activating can be especially helpful. For example, money!
📚 a book recommendation: You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience by Tarana Burke & Brené Brown
📧 we also talked about streamlining systems to offer yourself more ease. Create a referral list for email and text, thinking about what you usually send when folks ask for that info. In fact, if you send any message more than twice, make it a template so you can use it again and just customize it as needed.
If you have anything you'd like to add, thoughts on setting and holding boundaries lovingly or book recommendations, please share them below!